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Your vagina was never meant to be sterile. The bacteria living in it are the ones keeping it healthy.
Most of us were taught the vagina needs to be kept clean. Scrubbed, rinsed, deodorized, kept fresh. That instruction had it backwards.
A healthy vagina is not sterile. It's a living ecosystem, and the bacteria in it are the reason it stays healthy. And the part nobody mentioned: your uterus has its own microbiome too, something science only confirmed in the last decade.
Your microbiome is the community of bacteria living in and on your body. Some bacteria cause problems. Plenty of them keep you healthy. The vagina is a place where you want the helpful kind in charge.
In the vagina, a healthy microbiome is run by a type of bacteria called Lactobacillus. It produces lactic acid, which keeps the space acidic; a low pH, in the same range as a glass of orange juice. That acidity is the security system. It makes the environment hostile to the bacteria that cause infection.
So "clean" is the wrong goal. You're not trying to get rid of bacteria. You're trying to keep the right ones in charge.
Researchers sort vaginal microbiomes into a handful of common types. Four of the five most common types are run by Lactobacillus. The fifth is low in Lactobacillus and carries a mix of other bacteria instead (Ravel et al., 2011; Samama et al., 2025).
The Lactobacillus typ...

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